A Columbia undergraduate who came to question his political beliefs wrote an interesting essay in the
Columbia Daily Spectator. I have excerpted it below:
...Columbia students argue to persuade, impress, or defeat the people on the other side. Part of this comes from how polarized campus politics are. When every issue is framed as a binary contest, the goal becomes winning, leaving little room to pause and ask whether you genuinely hold the view you’re defending. That makes every argument a performance, which plays to the person giving it, too. Defend a position and you hold it harder, whether you believe in it or not—like a teenager who keeps arguing with a parent long after realizing they’re wrong.
...My psychology professor taught us the protege effect: You learn an idea more firmly once you have had to teach it, because explaining it forces you to organize and rehearse it. I realized the same is true for arguing...
The solution to campus polarization is not a stronger argument. It is the private, uncomfortable work of checking the position you would defend to death. Are the facts under it accurate? Are the values behind it actually mine? Nothing is harder, because you already know which answer you are hoping for.
...So find your answer. This semester, take the person you are sure is wrong out for coffee. Leave the rebuttal at home and bring a question: “How did you come to see it this way?” Listen until you could retell their story and they would confirm, “Yes, that’s it.” Then ask yourself the same question, and notice how long the honest answer takes. It will be uncomfortable. Good. That is what it feels like to stop reciting and start actually believing...
Full article at https://www.columbiaspectator.com/opinion/2026/11/07/at-columbia-uncertainty-is-not-failure-pretending-to-be-certain-is/.
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I asked AI (Gemini Song Composer) to turn the essay's excerpts into a song. Ultimately, I got two versions. (Note that AI is better at songwriting than spelling "Coffee" in the image above.)
Version 1: "Where The Truest Answers Grow"
Version 2: "Coffee With the Wrong One."
Verse 1
I paced the halls with answers I was ready to defend
To argue every point until I made the session end
I spoke with all the fervor that a young man could provide
Just trying to convince the world I had the proper side
We stood across the binary and fought to win the day
A grand performance acted out with clever things to say
The louder that I shouted and the more I pressed my case
The more I was a stranger to the person in that place
Chorus
It takes an inner quiet to find where you truly stand
To leave the noisy battle and to let go of your hand
You have to stop reciting every line you came to know
And step into the silence where the truest answers grow
Verse 2
My teacher spoke of learning and a strange effect he knew
The more you teach an idea then the more it feels like true
I realized that the arguments I framed to make a stand
Were locking down the fences and were cordoning my land
Like some rebellious teenager who argues with his folks
Long after he has realized his grievance is a hoax
I held on to the positions that I shouted in the crowd
Defending them so fiercely just because I was so proud
Chorus
It takes an inner quiet to find where you truly stand
To leave the noisy battle and to let go of your hand
You have to stop reciting every line you came to know
And step into the silence where the truest answers grow
Verse 3
So do the harder work of checking all the facts you swear
Are those real values that you hold or did you find them there?
Go sit and have a coffee with the person who is wrong
And listen to their story till you know where they belong
Outro [Omitted from "Coffee With the Wrong One"]
Notice how long an honest answer takes
It will be uncomfortable at first, and that is good
That is what it feels like to stop reciting words.